Thursday, June 4, 2009
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
The 17 Best Ways to Nurture and Grow Your Relationships
The following 17 tips offer guidance on how to nurture and grow your personal relationships and how to be your best self so that loving, healthy relationships are possible. Arm yourself with the tools that can help you avoid making self-destructive choices. Write down the following in your journal and reflect on them frequently as part of your work towards creating that special relationship.
1. Learn to compromise.
2. Acquire and build your ability to be assertive.
3. Disagree without demonizing. You are BOTH individuals; you both have a right to your opinions.
4. Recognize that very often when you make concessions or compromises, you are not caving in, you are staying in.
5. Think compassion not competition. Chill out. Revisit hot issues when you’ve cooled off and can re-open the door of reason.
6. Resist the urge to push each other’s buttons. You know what I mean. Button-pushing is a no-win, inflammatory activity.
7. Retain individuality. The who-you-are-person-inside is what your lover fell in love with in the first place.
8. Self-esteem – build it, feel it, nurture it.
9. Let love grow. Nurture it and protect it, because it is precious.
10. Write down your current mindset of how sex fits into your relationship.
11. How does your perception differ from your partner’s ideas?
12. If you feel guilty about having sex, examine why you feel this way. Come up with statements that counter your guilty thoughts with a more positive view.
13. Seek a healthy outlook about your body, your sexual appetite, and your mental health.
14. Make it your business to learn how your body functions, and what makes you feel good.
15. Meet with your trusted spiritual counselor to gain insight about how sexual activities are meant to fit into a healthy relationship according to your religious doctrine.
16. Seek counseling from a professional who specializes in sexual relationships.
17. If you are in an abusive relationship, seek immediate help from authorities. Emergency resources are available. Muster up your true survival instincts, and get the hell out of Dodge!
Love is worth giving and worth receiving. It’s so important in your life that you’ll spend a great deal of time thinking about it, desiring it and hopefully, living it. Treat it like your garden and nurture it every day. Every bit of energy and positive attention you devote to your love will pay dividends; love is the currency the universe thrives on. Make deposits daily.
1. Learn to compromise.
2. Acquire and build your ability to be assertive.
3. Disagree without demonizing. You are BOTH individuals; you both have a right to your opinions.
4. Recognize that very often when you make concessions or compromises, you are not caving in, you are staying in.
5. Think compassion not competition. Chill out. Revisit hot issues when you’ve cooled off and can re-open the door of reason.
6. Resist the urge to push each other’s buttons. You know what I mean. Button-pushing is a no-win, inflammatory activity.
7. Retain individuality. The who-you-are-person-inside is what your lover fell in love with in the first place.
8. Self-esteem – build it, feel it, nurture it.
9. Let love grow. Nurture it and protect it, because it is precious.
10. Write down your current mindset of how sex fits into your relationship.
11. How does your perception differ from your partner’s ideas?
12. If you feel guilty about having sex, examine why you feel this way. Come up with statements that counter your guilty thoughts with a more positive view.
13. Seek a healthy outlook about your body, your sexual appetite, and your mental health.
14. Make it your business to learn how your body functions, and what makes you feel good.
15. Meet with your trusted spiritual counselor to gain insight about how sexual activities are meant to fit into a healthy relationship according to your religious doctrine.
16. Seek counseling from a professional who specializes in sexual relationships.
17. If you are in an abusive relationship, seek immediate help from authorities. Emergency resources are available. Muster up your true survival instincts, and get the hell out of Dodge!
Love is worth giving and worth receiving. It’s so important in your life that you’ll spend a great deal of time thinking about it, desiring it and hopefully, living it. Treat it like your garden and nurture it every day. Every bit of energy and positive attention you devote to your love will pay dividends; love is the currency the universe thrives on. Make deposits daily.
Habits of Mind
Persistence
Stick to it! Persevering in task through to completion; remaining focused. Looking for ways to reach your goal when stuck. Not giving up.
Managing Impulsivity
Take your Time! Thinking before acting; remaining calm, thoughtful and deliberative.
Listening with Empathy and Understanding
Understand Others! Devoting mental energy to another person's thoughts and ideas; Make an effort to perceive another's point of view and emotions.
Thinking Flexibly
Look at it Another Way! Being able to change perspectives, generate alternatives, consider options.
Thinking about your Thinking : Metacognition
Know your knowing! Being aware of your own thoughts, strategies, feelings and actions and their effects on others.
Striving for Accuracy
Check it again! Always doing your best. Setting high standards. Checking and finding ways to improve constantly.
Applying Past Knowledge
Use what you Learn! Accessing prior knowledge; transferring knowledge beyond the situation in which it was learned.
Questioning and Posing Problems
How do you know? Having a questioning attitude; knowing what data are needed and developing questioning strategies to produce those data.
Thinking and Communicating with Clarity and Precision
Be clear! Striving for accurate communication in both written and oral form; avoiding over generalizations, distortions, deletions and exaggerations.
Gathering Data Through All Senses
Use your natural pathways! Pay attention to the world around you Gather data through all the senses. taste, touch, smell, hearing and sight.
Creating, Imagining & Innovating
Try a different way! Generating new and novel ideas, fluency, originality.
Responding With Wonderment and Awe
Have fun figuring it out! Finding the world awesome, mysterious and being intrigued with phenomena and beauty. Being passionate.
Taking Responsible Risks
Venture out! Being adventuresome; living on the edge of one's competence. Try new things constantly.
Finding Humor
Laugh a little! Finding the whimsical, incongruous and unexpected. Being able to laugh at oneself.
Thinking Interdependently
Work together! Being able to work in and learn from others in reciprocal situations. Teamwork.
Remaining Open to Continuous Learning
Learn from experiences! Having humility and pride when admittingwe don't know; resisting complacency.
Stick to it! Persevering in task through to completion; remaining focused. Looking for ways to reach your goal when stuck. Not giving up.
Managing Impulsivity
Take your Time! Thinking before acting; remaining calm, thoughtful and deliberative.
Listening with Empathy and Understanding
Understand Others! Devoting mental energy to another person's thoughts and ideas; Make an effort to perceive another's point of view and emotions.
Thinking Flexibly
Look at it Another Way! Being able to change perspectives, generate alternatives, consider options.
Thinking about your Thinking : Metacognition
Know your knowing! Being aware of your own thoughts, strategies, feelings and actions and their effects on others.
Striving for Accuracy
Check it again! Always doing your best. Setting high standards. Checking and finding ways to improve constantly.
Applying Past Knowledge
Use what you Learn! Accessing prior knowledge; transferring knowledge beyond the situation in which it was learned.
Questioning and Posing Problems
How do you know? Having a questioning attitude; knowing what data are needed and developing questioning strategies to produce those data.
Thinking and Communicating with Clarity and Precision
Be clear! Striving for accurate communication in both written and oral form; avoiding over generalizations, distortions, deletions and exaggerations.
Gathering Data Through All Senses
Use your natural pathways! Pay attention to the world around you Gather data through all the senses. taste, touch, smell, hearing and sight.
Creating, Imagining & Innovating
Try a different way! Generating new and novel ideas, fluency, originality.
Responding With Wonderment and Awe
Have fun figuring it out! Finding the world awesome, mysterious and being intrigued with phenomena and beauty. Being passionate.
Taking Responsible Risks
Venture out! Being adventuresome; living on the edge of one's competence. Try new things constantly.
Finding Humor
Laugh a little! Finding the whimsical, incongruous and unexpected. Being able to laugh at oneself.
Thinking Interdependently
Work together! Being able to work in and learn from others in reciprocal situations. Teamwork.
Remaining Open to Continuous Learning
Learn from experiences! Having humility and pride when admittingwe don't know; resisting complacency.
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