Doing what you like is freedom but liking what you do is happiness!

Thought for the day : After all - doing what you like is freedom but liking what you do is happiness!

One evening a scholar was addressing the participants on the concept of work culture. One of the participants asked the following question:
"I am a senior manager of Materials Department and I joined an organization 25 years ago as an Engineer Trainee and over the last 25 years I have gone through every experience in the organization. During the initial part of my career, the job was very challenging and interesting. However, all those exciting days are gone since I do not find my joy any more interesting because there is nothing new in my job. I am now feeling bored because I am doing a routine job.
However, Sir, I am living in the same house for over forty years, I am the son for the same parents for over forty five years, I am the father for the same children for the past ten years and the husband for the same lady for the past twenty years! (the toughest job!) In these personal roles I do not feel bored Please tell me why I am bored of the routine in the office and not in the house?"
The response from Scholar was very interesting and convincing. He asked the executive the question: "Please tell me for whom does your Mother cook?"
The executive replied that obviously the mother cooks for others. Then the Scholar said that the mother "Serves" others and because of this service mindedness, she is not feeling tired or bored. But in an office, we "Work" and not "Serve". Anything we consider, as service will not make us feel bored. That is difference between Serving and Working.
He asked the executive to consider his work as service and not merely a work !!
This was a very interesting analysis!!
Whenever you put a larger context around your work and see a broader meaning for your work, you will take interest in your work and it will make a very big difference in your internal energy.
Attitude Matters!!!
If you think you are working for the organization you will get frustrated. If you feel you are doing a service and getting some service charges you will feel happy.
After all - doing what you like is freedom but liking what you do is happiness!

Gud Cool Message

True Love Story

The last thing you know Indian Institute of Management, Ahmedabad for, is its love stories. about Siddharth Choudhary, from IIMA (then an undergrad) and Nidhi from a college near-by. Then, people said their love story was sweet and that it would weather all storms.

Months later, the couple did weather a huge storm when Nidhi was diagnosed with cancer. The duo came out strong and unscathed from it and this journey is now encompassed in a book titled 'Eagle Spotted, Message Decoded.' The book is written by Siddharth and has just about hit the stands.

Siddharth says much of his learning in life happened after his graduation from IIMA. "There are lots of things you don't learn at a management school. Life tests you and you have to learn quickly without any prior training. But yes, my MBA degree gave me the confidence to bounce back in life," he says.

Girl meets boy

Siddharth first spotted Nidhi at a small time tea stall just along side the IIM-A campus boundary wall. Ram-bhai's ketli, (Gujarati name for a tea-stall) has always been a lifeline for students of the institute anytime of the day or night. Nidhi was visiting the ketli with some of here college friends. There started the little college romance between the two, Nidhi being a localite and studying in a city college.

After graduation in 2005, Siddharth and Nidhi got married and started living in Mumbai. As part of final placements, Siddharth got placed with Monsanto India Limited in Mumbai in a marketing role. Later he moved to Johnson and Johnson, Mumbai, also in the marketing line.

Life takes a u-turn

Life seemed perfect. An IIMA degree to boast about - a plush job, a home and a loving wife. But about a year or so after marriage, Nidhi was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour called Medulloblastoma.

"We were also told it was an aggressive tumour for which there was no cure in allopathy," said Siddharth.

Nidhi's case got further complicated because the tumour had spread to rhe spine, making her case even more rare. This was the beginning of a rather tumultuous journey for the couple, where they realised that no degree prepares you for these situations.

Nidhi went through agonising pain and constant black-outs. She was finally operated on in Mumbai. Post the operation, however, Nidhi was moved to Ahmedabad for chemotherapy and post-operative treatment as her parents were there.

"I travelled every weekend to see her and made it for every doctor's appointment. But I realised, she needed me more than just these visits. The doctors were giving up on her and I decided to take that one big step," recalls Siddharth.

Goodbye job

The IIMA grad just chucked away his well-paying job and went to Ahmedabad to be with his wife. "Everyone told me I was doing the wrong thing. My parents, colleagues and all our friends. But I was adamant. My wife needed me more. When and if things turn out well, my degree will get me another job, I justified to myself," Siddharth told Pagalguy.

In Ahmedabad, Siddharth spent many sleepless nights with Nidhi since the chemotherapy sessions were painful. That was when Siddharth told her stories about IIMA days and the days before IIMA when he was a marine engineer. "After a few such sessions Nidhi told me to pen down my little stories in a book. Since I used to wait for Nidhi to sleep first and then sleep myself, I used that time to jot down my stories in my diary. I thought then that my stories were too simple and only meant for Nidhi to cheer-up," said Siddharth.

The coming days turned out to be worse. "One after another, the doctors began giving up on Nidhi and at that time I wanted to throw the diary out," recalls Siddharth.

Hope returned

But hope came again. A doctor in Kolkata took up Nidhi's case and slowly and surely life came back into her body. Regular doctor visits, a strict control on diet and proper medicine intake made Nidhi come back on track. Today after many months, Nidhi is off medicines too. "Somewhere during Nidhi's recovery, I came back to Mumbai and almost immediately got a job again. I guess I owe that to my management degree. Today Nidhi is also in Mumbai and our life has started again," said Siddharth.

MBA degree

"There were many lessons from IIM-A that might have helped me during my crisis. It teaches you to deal and live in pressure, race against time and win most times. But one thing that comes to my mind when I look back at my years at IIM-A, I feel my course would have been complete if I was also taught life skills. How to deal with people and their inflated egos, how to lead and make people see the bigger picture as you see it. Education needs to go beyond careers, placements and packages".

(Siddharth's book, 'Eagle Spotted, Message Decoded', is the story of a marine engineer who on his first job on the ship lacks confidence to face life at sea. The book is on how he learns to gather his strengths and overpower his fears - exactly what he did when he learnt of his wife's cancer. Siddharth himself is a trained marine engineer who sailed for over three years before joining IIM-A. The book is dedicated to his wife.)

If Ramayana was on Facebook........ TOO GOOD!!

**Story of Appreciation**

Translated from Chinese.
This is a powerful message in our modern society. We seemed to have ost our bearing & our sense of direction.

**Story of Appreciation**

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."

The youth said, Number 1, I know now what appreciation is. Without my Mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working
together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, "This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective
parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

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Don't worry about the world coming to an end today

The Charlie Schulz Philosophy
(This is marvelous!! Scroll thru slowly and read carefully to receive and enjoy full effect)

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip.

You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them.

Just read this straight through, and you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.

2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.

3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.

4 Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.

5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.

6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.

These are no second-rate achievers.

They are the best in their fields.

But the applause dies.

Awards tarnish.

Achievements are forgotten.

Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.


Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.

2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.

3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.

4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.

5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.

Easier?

The lesson:

The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money...or the most awards.

They simply are the ones who care the most

Share this on to those people who have either made a difference in your life, or whom you keep close in your heart, like I did.

'Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It’s already tomorrow in Australia !'

''Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Taken!"

JOBS YOU CANNOT DELEGATE

A bright young manager, who had joined as a campus recruit from one of the premier institutions, had decided to leave. After holding some discussions with him the immediate supervisors confirmed that there was no hope of his staying back. The business head listened to the details of the discussions, and told the supervisor to send the employee to Mumbai. When the employee arrived in Mumbai, the business head spent almost 5 hours with the employee, at the end of which, the employee said it was his father who had influenced his decision.

The next day was a Sunday and this business head had a discipline of not attending to office issues on a Sunday. He landed up at the residence of the father of the employee in the suburbs, unannounced. The discussions continued till after lunch and the business head returned. The employee continued with the organization and today holds a responsible position. It is important to note that the employee was not even reporting to this business head. It was purely out of the commitment and an urge to retain this talent that the business head undertook this successful initiative.

Among the most important jobs, which a manager cannot delegate are those related to the hiring, motivation, development and retention of employees. Many managers and organizations do not appreciate the importance of reference checks as an important ingredient of the selection process. After all, aren’t we familiar with the reference check process that takes place during matrimonial alliance in our very own India? These reference checks are done by the parents themselves and not by their friends or relatives. Senior people in the organization would experience similar feelings if they directly interact with the customers and understand their pain area as opposed relying solely on the qualitative feedback through their managers or through surveys.

Just as you cannot delegate selection for a member in your team, you cannot delegate the motivation and retention of employee. You have to be personally responsible for your team member. For the employee, the supervisor is the organization and the accountability ends there. You can always use the organization machinery available to add to what you are doing but cannot completely delegate the process of retention. Some of the critical responsibilities of a manager are similar to those in personal life at various stages. You cannot delegate your responsibility of parenthood and a student cannot delegate the job of achieving success in the examination to someone else. If you want to take ownership for your success you also have to take ownership of the critical processes related to the people you select, motivate and retain. There is a popular axiom which says: Don’t do what you can delegate. The reverse of the axiom is equally true: Do not delegate what you must do.

Excellent story with a great moral. Don't neglect to read.

Raaaajjjeeeessshhhh.... Raaaajjjeeeessshhhh. - what!! I woke up from a sudden jerk. Raaajeeessshhh.. .I heard my wife yelling. Whats wrong with her?

Always yelling for something or the other. I can t be in peace even in my dreams. Shucks!! Angrily, I kicked my blanket and got down.
Raaajesssh.. Coming Meera..what s wrong with you. Why are you shouting like this.. .

I hurried down the stairs. I saw Meera, my sweet(??!!) wife, sitting in the couch giving breakfast to my 7yr old daughter Achala. Both looked happy,watching TV.
I got confused at the whole scenario. I came running down, expecting some kind of earthquake, but instead here everything was in place.
I looked at my wife & daughter. She smiled at me back. Now, I more got confused, what s happening here? Am I in a dream?

Meera.
Yeah Rajesh.
You called me. In fact yelled.
Yes. You are right!
Everything is fine here right? Why you screamed like that then.
It s cos it s going to be 8am now.
I couldn t understand what she was trying to say. Is she playing some kind of prank? Is this the time for all these? I have to be in office by 9am for a meeting.
Yes. It s going to be 8am.Right! So.?
Rajesh, don t tell me, you forgot.today is 27th
27th..What 27th?
Don t tell me you don t remember?
Meera gave me an I ll kill you look. Is it her birthday? No it s somewhere at the year end. Is it my daughter s? No no , we celebrated last month only right. Got it. Should be our Anniversary.
Hey Meera, How will I forget our Anniversary.
Whaattttttt????..Anniversaryyyyy???...
Got it. It s not our anniversary. Before I get killed.What s w/ 27th. What ?? what?? Come on Rajesh!! Think. Nothing hit my mind. I looked at my daughter for a clue.
She turned her face away. What s with all women? Why can t they be straight forward & say things. With so much work pressure, how on earth I am supposed to remember all the dates?.
If I say something, then Meera will pick up a fight, and I will miss the meeting, my whole day will be gone.
I made up my mind to surrender.
Meera, Sorry, I don t remember. This medicine I am taking for cough, Something happened..my memory is deteriorating ..What s today? Meera doesn t seem like buying that excuse from me.
Meera, please tell me I asked in a pitiable tone..
Rajesh..You don t remember at all? I moved my head left & right meaning NO. I kept my face like I am a patient suffering from amnesia .
Rajesh, As part of annual day celebrations, today is Daddy s Day in Acchu s school. I have been telling you for the past 3 weeks. Now don t tell me you forgot. You already promised that you will go with her to her school
I couldn t believe that I accepted for something like that. Meeraa..did I??
Yes. You did
at what time it starts..?
By 8:30am and ends at 1pm .
Gosh!! 9am!! I have such a critical meeting. How I will attend all these.
"Meera, you could have reminded me yesterday right?
Oh I didn t remind you? Great. I didn t call to your office. Or remind you in the evening and before going to bed
Might be I wouldn t have heard it. Or slipped out of my memory. Whatever!!
Meera! Can t you attend all these. Why should I??
"Rajesh. It s Daddy s Day!...DADDY ss!!!!!
Oh yeah....but...
But what????...
errrh....might be some other day...
What? You want the school to postpone the function?
No..No.actually..what..I am saying is..
What Rajesh??? What?? Tell me. You promised Acchu and are you going to disappoint her?
I stood there totally helpless. I looked at my daughter. She was all dressed up and ready to go. She looked like, she will cry any time. I saw Meera. She gave me a murderous look. I thought for a moment and my mind raced with many calculations. Important meeting. I can t miss for sure. Half a day is too much. So many deliverables will get affected. I can t face Meera again if I don t go. Might be I can postpone the meeting by an hour and for name sake visit that function and escape to office.
Meera, I will go, but I can spend only 1 hour..
No...that s not..
Before Meera finished the sentence, Acchu rushed to me Thanks daddy. 1hour. Mom, 1hour is enough mom. Please don t fight mom. Daddy, get ready soon..
she nudged me.
Do you know her school name and the route for the school or you want me to tell??? Asking that Meera threw me an angry look and left the living room.
I rushed up, got ready. Called my manager & told that I got stuck in traffic jam and postponed the meeting to 10am.
I took Achala to her school. I felt somehow entering the school, cos it s the 2nd time, I am entering her school. In fact 1st time. I once dropped her outside her school gate. The school had a big playground, Small Park with all kids playing equipments. Some stalls were put up. So many kids with their fathers moved around here & there. Suddenly I felt some one touching my hand
Are you achala s daddy? - A small kid asked. She had curly hair and bubbly smile.
Yes,,,My Daddy... - Achala responded in an excited tone. And some kids ran towards me and Achala started introducing everyone.
Daddy! this is Rohit, this is zakir, Anis, Sylvia, Divya.. - I told hello to everyone.
Daddy, Daddy, Zakir is my best friend. - I smiled at that cute blue eyed boy.
Uncle, Acchu told that you have so much work and you won t be able to come. She told she won t come in today. You don t have work Uncle? - Zakir asked me.
I suddenly felt very bad on how my daughter has understood me. No Zakir, I don t have work
Daddy, they are calling for the games. . Zakir ran to his father and waved his hands at me & achala. I took achala by hand and walked towards the stage.
They were announcing the 1st game. Fathers will be given a sheet containing questions about their kids. Fathers have to fill about their kids which will be verified with the kids response.
Achala was all excited about the game and she was all set to go. But I felt shivers. I looked at my daughter. Suddenly, I felt very far from her, and the reality hit me, that I don t know anything about my very own daughter. I blurted out Acchu..we will attend the next game..This one .. She gave me a deep stare. I thought she is going to cry or shout or do something. But instead she pulled out a small paper from her jeans pocket and gave it to me. Completely baffled, I opened the sheet.

My name is Achala. My birthday March 21st. I am 7yrs old. I like butterfly. Superman. Dairy milk. painting. dancing. I am in 1st standard A section.
I like Dora. Mango. Apple. Fried rice. Jelly. I don t like banana. I drink boost.. I like yellow color. My nick name is Honey dew
And the list went on with small, small spelling mistakes. I looked at Acchu. Daddy, read it, I know they will keep this game. So I wrote it 2 days back itself, to give you if you come. If they ask anything about me, write there. Ok Now go & attend the game . Most of the things, my daughter has written & gave me, I never knew anything about it. I suddenly felt a lump in my throat. I went to the stage waved my hand to Acchu and got the question sheet.

Since Acchu gave the sheet, I came to know about her & I answered almost all the questions. Then they asked Acchu on stage and asked the questions to her.
We got the 2nd highest mark in that game. Acchu came running towards me and hugged me. They gave a toy guitar . Everyone congratulated us. Thou I won that game, I felt like a loser. I know, I don t deserve this. I don t know anything about my daughter.
She looked very happy showing that guitar to her best friend, zakir . What a kid she is. Understanding that her dad is totally hopeless and don t want to let her dad down, before others she prepared that sheet and gave to me. The lump in my throat started getting bigger and my heart became heavy. I caressed her hair. What a beautiful smile she has and such big eyes. Does she miss a wing to get qualified as an angel? I have never admired my daughter or even watched her in all these years. She has that cute dimple of Meera s as well as her eyes. Does that curling lip edges when she smiles, is mine? How I missed all this in my life.

Achala pulled me to the stalls there and I got some eatables and ballons for her and zakir.. She kept talking about the next game and suddenly my mobile rang. Oops!! Is it already 10am. I looked at Acchu . Suddenly her face became dark. She looked totally upset and asked in an low voice Daddy! You have to leave now?

I looked at my mobile. My manager was calling. It s already 10am. I looked at Acchu. I looked around. All those happy kids with their fathers. I thought about my school days, where my dad used to come for all sports day, annual day, sit with me, cheer me up. Every day morning, while dropping me to school, he will wait near the gate until my head disappear. Evening, he will come & pick me up in his cycle, and I will be telling him all the stories that happened that day in school.

I saw Acchu. How many untold stories my daughter has kept in her heart to say me? I thought about all those days, where I yearned for a girl child and I wonder, how much of my time I gave her.

I pulled her closer, gave a kiss on her fore head No Honey! I am not going. I will be here only.we will attend all games and roam around whole day.ok?
Really? - She asked in an unbelievable tone.
Yes sweetz
Thank you Daddy! - Achala kissed my cheeks and ran to her friends. School teaches you something or the other always. This time, back to school has taught me a wonderful life s lesson. I called my manager & told that am running high fever and can t come in today. I know, I can handle things tomorrow. Today my daughter needs me more than anyone can need me in this world. With a lighter heart, I got up; ran towards Acchu, lifted her and gave her a big swing. She erupted into an uncontrollable laughter.

The lump in my throat started melting away.

Give to the world the best you have and the best will come back to you ...!

Cross examination of Grandmom

A very gud one for a hearty laugh.

In a trial, a small-town prosecuting attorney called his first witness, an elderly grandmother to the stand.
He approached her and asked; "Mrs. Jones, do you know me?"

She responded, "Why, yes, I do know you, Mr. Williams.
I've known you since you were a young boy, and frankly, you're a big disappointment to me..
You lie, cheat on your wife, manipulate people and talk about them behind their backs.
You think you're a big shot when you haven't the brains to realize
you never will amount to anything more than a two-bit paper pusher.
Yes, I know you.."

The lawyer was stunned!
Not knowing what else to do, he pointed across the room and asked,
"Mrs.. Jones, do you know the defense attorney (the opponent's lawyer)?"

She again replied, "Why, yes, I do. I've known Mr. Bradley since he was a youngster.
He's lazy, bigoted, and has a drinking problem.
He can't build a normal relationship with anyone and his law practice is one of the worst in the state.
Not to mention he cheated on his wife with three different women.
One of them was your wife. ..
Yes I know him."

The defense attorney almost died.

The judge asked both lawyers to approach the bench and in a quiet voice said:
"If either of you rascals asks her if she knows me,
I'll send you to jail for contempt of court !

The Law of Germination

This law says whatever is planted requires some time before it comes to
fruition. `Every idea, everything you plant, requires a certion action, a
certain amount of time before the outcome is realized. You need to sow your
ideas, allow them to germinate, give them lots of energy and then you will
reap the rewards. The only way something will grow is if it receives energy.
You have to apply a lot of energy, but be patient. You'll get what you
choose, but you must give it some time. Sometimes people become impatient
when they want to acquire higher incomes. If it dosn't happen for them in
the first couple of days of couple of weeks, they give up. They quit. It
didn't work because they misunderstood the law of germantion. You cant force
things to happen. If you plant a carrot, it's not going to do you any good
to sit there and, as the little shoot comes through the ground, try to yank
it a little bit every day. That isn't going to make the carrot grow any
faster. What you often have to do with some of these ideas, especially these
wealth-building ideas, is relax and let them take their course. It will
happen, it simply requires energy applied consistently over time. So keep
giving it energy and be patient. Remember, force negates. This is going to
require some thinking and some change and it is a process that will occur,
but you have to understand the law of germination.


Money Making Habits -

Most people know what they need to do to become wealthier. Most people know
their finances would be in better shape if they refused to buy on credit.
Most people understand the need to save a certain percentage of their income
for retirement or contingencies. Most people know that if they watched less
television they would have more time to generate income. once these habits
become a part of your lifestyle, you will be on your way to financial
freedom.

Suggested Money Making Habits

- Read a postive, personal development book for 30 minutes per day.
- Plan the next day before you quit for today.
- Listen to an instructional audio tape in your car.
- Watch sixty fewer minutes of television.
- Refuse to gossip. Speak positively of others.
- Write a Thank You note to someone every day.
- Save 10% of your income.
- Refuse to buy anything on a credit card for which you canot pay cash.
- Create one MSI(Multiple Souece of Income) per month.
= Attent a mastermind group once a month.
- Work on your goals every day.
- Take a sucessful person to lunch every month.
- Find a mentor and do what he/she says.
- Start a date night with your spouse.
- Write one page per day of your novel.
- Exercise to relive stress.
- Read a book about selling.
- Do something kind for someone every day.
- smile.

A Nice Story With A Message

A worried woman went to her gynaecologist and said:

'Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 01 year old, and I'm pregnant again. I don't want kids so close together.

So the doctor said: 'Ok and what do you want me to do?'

She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.'

The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.'

She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.

Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 02 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest sometime before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose to kill the one in your arms.

The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child!
‘I agree’, the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be ok with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution. The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.

He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb. The crime is the same !!!

If you agree, please forward. Together we can help save precious lives!

Learn from Yesterday, live for Today, hope for Tomorrow..

NEED & GREED

This one makes so much sense...

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village.
A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long." they answered in unison.

"Why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?"

The fishermen explained that their small catches were sufficient to meet their needs and those of their families.

"But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"We sleep late, fish a little, play with our children, and take siestas with our wives.
In the evenings, we go into the village to see our friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs.

We have a full life."

The tourist interrupted,

"I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?"

"With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man,
you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant.
You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City , Los Angeles , or even New York City !

From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."

"How long would that take?"
"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years." replied the tourist.
"And after that?"

"Afterwards? Well my friend, that's when it gets really interesting, " answered the tourist, laughing. "When your business gets really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and make millions!"

"Millions? Really? And after that?" asked the fishermen.

"After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends."

"With all due respect sir, but that's exactly what we are doing now. So what's the point wasting twenty-five years?" asked the Mexicans.

And the moral of this story is:

Know where you're going in life.... you may already be there

GUIDE TO A BETTER LIFE - GOOD ONE

This is amazing, he died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ˜The last lecture before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.
May you be blessed by his insight.

POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

Lessons learnt by a GREAT ACHIEVER

There is very instructive incident involving the life of Alexander, the
great Greek King.

Alexander, after conquering many kingdoms, was returning home. On the way,
he fell ill and it took him to his death bed.
With death staring him in his face, Alexander realized how his conquests,
his great army, his sharp sword and all his wealth were of
no consequence.

He now longed to reach home to see his mother's face and bid her his last
adieu. But, he had to accept the fact that his sinking health would not
permit him to reach his distant homeland.

So, The mighty conqueror lay prostrate and pale, helplessly waiting to
breathe his last. He called his generals and said,
"I will depart from this world soon, I have three wishes, please carry them
out without fail. With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed
to abide by their king's last wishes.

" My first desire is that," said Alexander,

" My physicians alone must carry my coffin." After a pause, he continued.

" Secondly, I desire that when my coffin is being carried to the grave, the
path leading to the graveyard be strewn with gold, silver and
precious stones which I have collected in my treasury ".

The king felt exhausted after saying this. He took a minute's rest and
continued.

" My third and last wish is that both my hands be kept dangling out of my
coffin ."

The people who had gathered there wondered at the king's strange wishes.

But no one dare bring the question to their lips. Alexander's favorite
general kissed his hand and pressed them to his heart.

" O king, we assure you that your wishes will all be fulfilled. But tell us
why do you make such strange wishes?"

At this Alexander took a deep breath and said: " I would like the world to
know of the three lessons I have just learnt.

I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that
no doctor can really cure any body .

They are powerless and cannot save a person from the clutches of death.

So let not people take life for granted .

The second wish of strewing gold, silver and other riches on the way to the
graveyard is to tell

People that not even a fraction of gold will come with me. I spent all my
life earning riches but cannot take anything with me.

Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth .

And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin,

I wish people to know that I came empty handed into this world and empty
handed I go out of this world ."

With these words, the king closed his eyes. Soon he let death conquer him
and breathed his last.

Quote of the Day

Give yourself permission to follow your mission. As one father told his son: "be ashamed to die until you have scored a victory for mankind."
-From a Greek saying

Happy Independence day

Believe in yourself...!

When you really want something ,

sometimes you have to swim a little

deeper ...you cant give up just

because things dont come easy..

you have to overcome the obstacles

and face your fears ....

But in the end,its all worth

while! Life is full of ups and downs ,

but if you believe in yourself

you will always come through with

flying colors ... Value Friendsdhip ,

Love and Faith ...Never

underestimate yourself

Believe in yourself...!

Have a Good Life !!!!

The Power of Three Little Words

Some of the most significant messages people deliver to one another often come in just three words. When spoken or conveyed, those statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled. The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship.

I'LL BE THERE - Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and to us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. 'Being there' is at the very very core of civility.

I MISS YOU - Perhaps more marriages could be salvaged and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other, "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.

I RESPECT YOU - Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that
another person is a true equal. It is a powerful way to affirm the importance of a relationship.

MAYBE YOU'RE RIGHT - This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring
frayed emotions. The flip side of "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting "maybe I'm wrong."

PLEASE FORGIVE ME - Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I THANK YOU - Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

COUNT ON ME - "A friend is one who walks in when others walk out," Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those who are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there, indicating "you can count on me."

LET ME HELP - The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

I UNDERSTAND YOU - People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting others know in so many little ways that you understand him or her is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship.

GO FOR IT - Some of your friends may be non conformists, have unique projects and unusual hobbies. Support them in pursuing their interests. Rather than urging your loved ones to conform, encourage their uniqueness-everyone has dreams that no one else has.

I suppose the 3 little words that you were expecting to see have to be reserved for those who are special; that is I LOVE YOU.
Have a great day loving yourself and loving your loved ones! c ya

HOPE

Unexpected results & Problems r part of life.
Never loose HOPE in any condition,
bcoz darkness of night always finish with light of day.
Remember!
Human can live about 20days without food,
about 3days without water,
about 5 mints without air
but
not for 1secnd without HOPE.
BE HOPEFULL ALWAYS.

When u feel depressed, confused or hurt.
Don’t worry stand in front of a mirror,
u will find the best one to solve your problem.
TRUST YOURSELF.

ALWAYS SAY- I AM AN INDIAN!

An American Visted India n Went Back..

Where He Met an Indian Frnd Who Asked "HoW WAS MY COUNTRY"??
American-"It's a Great Country, With Solid Ancient Histry & Immensely Rich with Natural Resources.."

He den Proudly Asked "HoW DID U FIND INDIANS"?
American-"Indians,Who Indians? I didn't Find or Meet a Single Indian dere.."

Indian-"What Nonsense? Who else can u meet?"

American-"In Kashmir a Kashmiri?
In Punjab Punjabi
In Bihar Bihari
In Maharashtra Marathi
In rajhastanMarwadi
In Bengal Bengali
In TamilNadu Tamilian

Also met

A Muslim
A Hindu
A Jain
A Buddhist n
Many many more but my 'Indian' frnd NOT A SINGLE INDIAN DID I MEET!"

Think How Serious This Joke Is,

The day would not be far off,

When indeed we would become a collection of Nation States as Some Regional n Anti-National Politicians Want!
*FIGHT BACK,

ALWAYS SAY- I AM AN INDIAN!

Request you all to contribute in awareness by forwarding this!

With warm regards,
No Name,
Just INDIAN

To say I love you even without words

There are actually several ways to say I love you even with the absence of words. Remember that action speaks louder than words. Words may not be enough to show someone you love him or her.

This article may give great ideas as it reveals three ways to say I love you even without words:

Let go of your past - One way to say I love you even with the absence of words is to let go of your past. When you completely let go of your past, you are actually telling him how much you love him or her. When you are tied up with your past, you are just giving him or her doubtful thoughts regarding your true feelings. When the person you love learns and feels you have completely forgotten your past, you are actually telling him or her I love you.

No comparisons - Another way to say I love you even with the absence of words is to never have comparisons. Do not compare him or her to anybody; especially with your ex. Always make him or her feel that she is special and a unique individual, and that you love him or her for who she is. When you make that person feel that he or she is incomparable, you are actually silently telling him or her I love you.

Accept flaws and weaknesses - This is one of the best ways to say I love you even with the absence of words. You do not actually demand for a person to change if you love him or her. You accept the person for who she or he is, and cover up the weaknesses. This is one of the greatest ways to say I love you.
Saying I love you may not be enough. Consider these three ways and let that someone feel how much you love them!

Wonderful email - Kindly share.

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"A smile on your face will do wonders for your Appearance"

Simple things that are essential in LIFE

Call People by Name. The sweetest music to anyone's ears is the sound of his/her own name.

Be Alert to give Service..... What we do for others counts most in life...

If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours!

Learn to understand first and to be understood second.

Don't underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear,
an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around....

Life ends when you stop Dreaming, Hope ends when you stop Believing,
Love ends when you stop Caring, Friendship ends when you stop Sharing...

Every moment, every situation, every issue and every concern has a positive side. Find it and bring it to life....

Be Genuinely Interested in People. If you try, you can like everybody, and Everybody will like you.....

When you find a Dream inside your heart ,Don't ever let it go
For Dreams are the tiny seeds from Which Beautiful Tomorrows Grow

Believe in your Dreams

Good morning

Sometimes we must be Hurt in order to Grow,

Sometimes we must Fail in order to Know,
Sometimes we must Lose in order to Gain

Because some lessons in life are best learned through PAIN....

May the brand New Day turn into a Wonderful One,
When all the things you wish for will surely come your way.
Have a Wonderful day ahead!!!

DONT MISTAKE UR LOVED ONES OR FRIENDS IF THEY R ANGRY WITH U ...
BCOZ BEING ANGRY IS THE EASIEST WAY TO EXPRESS DEEP LOVE....

DIABETIC ???? ( FINALLY GOOD NEWS )

DIABETIC?

FINALLY GOOD NEWS FOR ALL DIABETICS

A woman (65) was diabetic for the last 20+ years and was taking insulin twice a day, she used the enclosed homemade medicine for a fortnight and now she is absolutely free of diabetes and taking all her food as normal including sweets .............

The doctors have advised her to stop insulin and any other blood sugar controlling drugs.

I request you all please circulate the email below to as many people as you can and
let them take the maximum benefit from it.

AS RECEIVED :

DR. TONY ALMEIDA ( Bombay Kidney Speciality expert ) made the extensive
experiments with perseverance and patience and discovered a successful treatment for diabetes.
Now a days a lot of people, old men & women in particular suffer a lot due to Diabetes.

Ingredients:
1 - Wheat flour 100 gm
2 - Gum(of tree) (gondh) 100 gm
3 - Barley 100 gm
4 - Black Seeds (kalunji) 100 gm

Method of Preparation Put all the above ingredients in 5 cups of water.
Boil it for 10 minutes and put off the fire. Allow it to cool down by itself.
When it has become cold, filter out the seeds and preserve the water in a glass jug or bottle..

How to use it?

Take one small cup of this water every day early morning when your stomach is empty.
Continue this for 7 days. Next week repeat the same but on alternate days. With these 2 weeks of treatment you
will wonder to see that you have become normal and can eat normal food without problem.

Note: A request is to spread this to as many as possible so that others can also take benefit out of it.
SPB MESSAGE
SINCE THESE ARE ALL NATURAL INGREDIENTS, TAKING THEM IS NOT HARMFUL. SO THOSE WHO ARE SCEPTICAL ABOUT THIS TREATMENT MAY STILL TRY IT WITHOUT ANY HARM. WORST CASE SCENARIO WILL BE THAT YOU REMAIN STILL SAME AS YOU WERE BEFORE

Body Damaging Habits

Body Damaging Habits
by CYRUS A.B.

1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are main cause.

2. Not urinating in the morning.

3. Too much eating.

4. Skipping breakfast.

5. Consuming too much medication.

6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring, and artificial sweetener.

7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil.
As much as possible reduce cooking oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if the body is20very fit.

8. Consuming raw (overly done) foods also add to the burden of liver.
Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should be finished in one sitting, do not store.

We should prevent this without necessarily spending more. We just have to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good eating habits and time condition are very important for our bodies to absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to 'schedule.'

The top five cancer-causing foods are:

1.. Hot Dogs

Because they are high in nitrates, the Cancer Prevention Coalition advises that children eat no more than 12 hot dogs a month. If you can't live without hot dogs, buy those made without sodium nitrate..

2. Processed meats and Bacon

Also high in the same sodium nitrates found in hot dogs, bacon, and other processed meats raise the risk of heart disease. The saturated fat in bacon also contributes to cancer.

3. Doughnuts

Doughnuts are cancer-causing double trouble. First, they are made with white flour, sugar, and hydrogenated oils, then fried at high temperatures. Doughnuts, says Adams , may be the worst food you can possibly eat to raise your risk of cancer.

4. French fries

Like doughnuts, French fries are made with hydrogenated oils and then fried at high temperatures. They also contain cancer- causing acryl amides which occur during the frying process. They should be called cancer fries, not French fries, said Adams ..

5. Chips, crackers, and cookies

All are usually made with white flour and sugar. Even the ones whose labels claim to be free of trans-fats generally contain small amounts of trans-fats.
When you hire people who are smarter than you , you prove you are smarter than them.

Standing for what you believe in

Standing for what you believe in regardless of the odds against you, and the pressure that tears at your resistance

...is Courage.

Keeping a smile on your face when inside you feel like dying, for the sake of supporting others

...is Strength.

Stopping at nothing and doing what's in your heart that you know is right

...is Determination.

Doing more than is expected, to make another's life a little more bearable, without uttering a single complaint

...is Compassion.

Helping a friend in need, no matter the time or effort, to the best of your ability

...is Loyalty.

Holding your head high

And being the best you know you can be when life

seems to fall apart at your feet,

Facing each difficulty with the confidence that

time will bring you better tomorrows,

And never giving up...

...is Confidence.

Hold your head high

and make your life better every day!

Do not re-use mineral water bottles

South central Railway introduced SMS based "Passenger Complaint & Suggestion System {SPCSS}

South central Railway introduced SMS based "Passenger Complaint & Suggestion System {SPCSS}

1.Complaints &suggestions can be registered at ' 81212 81212 ' by sending an SMS.

2.In response an automated acknowledgement with an unique ID will be sent to you as an SMS.

3.With the unique ID, passenger can know the status of the complaint by sending SMS-
"STATUS" TO 81212 81212 or by logging on to www.scrailway.gov.in

4. Final reply will be sent through an SMS and will also be available on website www.scrailway.gov.in

This helps faster & greater participation of customers in Railway services.
All of you please utilise this facility and also forward this to all known.

New Indian rupee symbol launched

India has unveiled a new symbol for its rupee currency which it hopes will become a globally recognised sign, just like the dollar and its symbol $.

The rupee is currently referred to by abbreviations like Rs, Re or INR.

The Indian rupee has achieved parity with major currencies such as the dollar, euro, pound sterling and yen in one respect: it now has its own symbol.

India's cabinet on Thursday approved the adoption of the new symbol after holding a competition that drew more than 3,000 entries, which were evaluated by a deputy governor of the central bank as well as artists and designers.

The winning symbol was created by Uday Kumar, a post-graduate student at the Indian Institute of Technology.

He beat 3000 other entries to win the cash prize of 250,000 rupees ($7,388).

The symbol is an amalgam of the Indian Devanagari script Ra and the Roman capital letter R without the stem.

There are now plans to have the new symbol introduced on computer keyboards shortly and is expected to be in international use in about two years' time.

Never give up on anything!

Its Madness -

To hate all roses, because you got scratched by one thorn.
To give up all your dreams, because one did not come true.
To lose faith in prayers, because one was not answered.

To give up on your efforts, because one of them failed.
To condemn all your friends, because one of them betrayed.
Not to believe in love, because someone was unfaithful.

Remember that, another chance may come up.
A new friend, A new love, A new life.

Never give up on anything!

Remember......U only live 4 the moment,......cherish it,.......

Good story

Remember......U only live 4 the moment,......cherish it,.......

This is a true story which has touched many readers. As it is quite a long story, reserve it (if you haven't got the time) and read it only when you are in a more relaxed mood.

In either case, do make it a point to savour every line until the end. This is for all the single, married, divorced, widowed individuals, who take life for granted.

Please, read this story until the end.. It is such an eye opener.
You never Know.........!

Just two years after our marriage, hubby brought up the idea of asking Mother to move from the rural hometown and spend her remaining years with us.

Hubby's father passed away while he was still very young. Mother endured much hardship and struggled all on her own to provide for him, see him through to a university degree.

You could say that she suffered a great deal and did everything you could expect of a woman to bring hubby to where he is today.

I immediately agreed and started packing the spare room, which has a balcony facing the South to let her enjoy the sunshine and plant greenery.

Hubby stood in the bright room, and suddenly just picked me up and started spinning round and round.

As I begged him to put me down, he said: "Lets go fetch mother." Hubby is tall and big sized and I love to test on his chest and enjoy the feeling that he could pick me up at any moment put the tiny me into his pockets.

Whenever we have an argument and both refuses to back down, he would pick me up and spin me over his head continuously until I surrender and beg for mercy.

I became addicted to this kind of panic-joy feeling.

Mother brought along her countryside habits and lifestyle with her.

For example; I am so used to buying flowers to decorate the living room, she could not stand it and would comment:

"I do not know how you young people spend your money, why do you buy flowers for?

You also can't eat flowers!" I smiled and said: "Mum, with flowers in the house, our mood will also become better."

Mother continues to grumble away, and hubby smiled: "Mum, this is a city-people's habit; slowly you will get used to it."

Mother stopped saying anything. But every time thereafter, whenever I came home with flowers, she would ask me how much it costs.

I told her and she would shake her head and express displeasure.

Sometimes, when I come home with lots of shopping bags, she would ask each and every item how much they cost, I would tell her honestly and she would get even more upset about it.

Hubby playfully pinched my nose and said: "You little fool, just don't tell her the full price of everything."

There begins the friction to our otherwise happy lifestyle.

Mother hates it most when hubby wakes up early to prepare the breakfast.

In her view, how could the man of the house cook for the wife?

At the breakfast table, mother facial expression is always like the dark clouds before a thunderstorm and I would pretend not to notice.

She would use her chopsticks and make a lot of noise with it as her silent protest.


As I am a dance teacher in the Children's Palace and am exhausted from along day of dancing around, I do not wish to give up the luxury of that additional few minutes in the comfort of my bed and hence I turned a deaf ear to all the protest mother makes.

From time to time, mother would help out with some housework, but soon her help created additional work for me.

For example: she would keep all kinds of plastic bags accumulating them so that she sell them later on, and resulted in our house being filled with all the trash bags; she would scrimp on dish washing detergent when helping to wash the dishes and so as not to hurt her feelings, I would quietly wash them again.

One day, late at night, mother saw me quietly washing the dishes, and "Bam" she slams her bedroom door and cried very loudly in her room.

Hubby was placed in a difficult position, and after that, he did not speak to me for that entire night.

I pretended to be a spoilt child, tried acting cute, but he totally ignored me....

I got mad and asked him: "What did I do wrong?" Hubby stared at me and said: "Can't you just give in to her once?

We couldn't possibly die eating from a bowl however unclean it is, right?"

After that incident, for a long period of time, mother did not speak to me and you can feel that there is a very awkward feeling hanging in the house.

During that period of cold war, hubby was caught in dilemma as to who to please.

In order to stop her son from having to prepare breakfast, mother took on the "all important" task of preparing breakfast without any prompting.

At the breakfast table, mother would look at hubby happily eating his breakfast and cast that reprimanding stare at me for having failed to perform my duty as a wife.

To avoid the embarrassing breakfast situation, I resorted to buying my own breakfast on my way to work.

That night, while in bed, hubby was a little upset and asked me:

"LD, is it because you think that mum's cooking is not clean that's why you chose not to eat at home?"

He then turned his back on me and left me alone in tears as feeling of unfairness overwhelmed me.

After some time, hubby sighed: "LD, just for me, can you have breakfast at home?"

I am left with no choice but to return to the breakfast table.

The next morning, I was having porridge prepared by mother and I felt a sudden churn in my stomach and everything inside seem to be rushing up my throat.

I tried to suppress the urge to throw up but I could not.

I threw down the bowl, rushed into the washroom, and vomited everything out..

Just as I was catching my breath, I saw mother crying and grumbling very loudly in her dialect, hubby was standing at the washroom doorway staring at me with fire burning in his eyes...

I opened my mouth but no words came out of it, I really did not mean it.

We had our very first big fight that day; mother took a look at us, then stood up and slowly made her way out of the house.

Hubby gave me a final stare in the eye and followed mother down the stairs.

For three days, hubby did not return home, not even a phone call.

I was so furious, since mother arrived; I had been trying my best and putting up with her, what else do you want me to do?

For no reason, I keep having the feeling to throw up and I simply have no appetite for food, coupled with all the events happening at home, I was at then low point in my life..

Finally, a colleague said: "LD, you look terrible; you should go and see a doctor."

The doctor confirmed that I am pregnant.

Now it became clear to me why I threw up that fateful morning, a sense of sadness floated through that otherwise happy news.

Why didn't hubby, and mother who had been through this before, thought of the possibility of this being the reason that day?

At the hospital entrance, I saw my hubby standing there.

It had only been three days, but he looked haggard. I had wanted to turn and leave, but one look at him and my heart soften, I couldn't resist and called out to him.

He followed my voice and finally found me but he pretended that he doesn't know me; he has that disgusted look in his eyes that cut right through my heart.

I told myself not to look at him anymore, and hail a cab.

At that moment, I have such a strong urge inside me to shout to my hubby: "Darling, I am having your baby!" and have him lift me up and spin me around in circles of joy.

What I wanted didn't happen and as I sat in the cab, my tears started rolling down.

Why? Why our love couldn't even withstand the test of one fight?

Back home, I lay on the bed thinking about my hubby, and the disgusted look in his eyes.

I cried and wet the corner of the blanket.

That night, sound of the drawers opening woke me up.

I switched on the lights and I saw hubby with tears rolling down his face.

He was removing the money. I stared at him in silence; he ignored me, took the bank deposit book and some money and left the house.

Maybe he really intends to leave me for good.

What a rational man, so clear-cut in love and money matters.

I gave a few dried laugh and tears starting streaming down again.

The next day, I did not go to work. I wanted to clear this out and have a good talk with hubby.

I reached his office and his secretary gave me a weird
look and said:

"Mr. Tan's mother had a traffic accident and is now in the hospital."

I stood there in shock.

I rushed to the hospital and by the time I found hubby, mother had already passed away.

Hubby did not look at me, his face was expressionless.

I looked at mother's pale white and thin face and I couldn't control the tears in my eyes.

My god, how could this happen?

Throughout the funeral, hubby did not say a single word to me, with only the occasional disgusted stare at me.

I only managed to find out brief facts about the accident from other people.

That day, after mother left the house, she walked in dazed toward the bus stop, apparently intending to go back to her old house back in the countryside.

As hubby ran after her, she tried to walk faster and as she tried to cross the street, a public bus came and hit her...

I finally understood how much hubby must hate me, if I had not thrown up that morning, if we had not quarreled, if....

In his heart, I am indirectly the killer of his mother.

Hubby moved into mother's room and came home every night with a strong liquor smell on him.

And me, I am buried under the guilt and self-pity and could hardly breathe.

I wanted to explain to him, tell him that we are going to have our baby soon, but each time, I saw the dead look in his eyes, all the words I have at the brink of my mouth just fell back in.

I had rather he hit me real hard or give me a big and thorough scolding though none of these events happening had been my fault at all.

Many days of suffocating silence went by and as the days went by, hubby came home later and later.

The deadlock between us continues, we were living together like strangers who don't know each other.

I am like the dead knot in his heart.

One day, I passed by a western restaurant, looking into the glass window, I saw hubby and a girl sitting facing each other and he very lightly brushed her hair for her, I understood what it meant.

After recovering from that moment of shock, I entered the restaurant, stood in front of my hubby and stared hard at him, not a tear in my eyes.

I have nothing to say to him, and there is no need to say anything.

The girl looked at me, looks at hubby, stands up and wanted to go, hubby stretched out his hand and stopped her.

He stared back at me, challenging me.

I can only hear my slow heart beat, beating, one by one as if at the brink of death.

I eventually backed down, if I had stood that any longer, I will collapse together with the baby inside me.

That night, he did not come home; he had chosen to use that as a way to indicate to me: Following mother's death so did our love for each other.

He did not come home anymore after that.

Sometimes, when I returned home from work, I can tell that the cupboard had been touched - he had returned to take some of his stuff.

I no longer wish to call him; the initial desire to explain everything to him vanished.

I lived alone; I go for my medical checkups alone, my heart breaks again and again every time I see a guy carefully helping his wife through the physical examination.

My office colleagues hinted to me to consider aborting the baby, I told them No, I will not..

I insisted on having to this baby, perhaps it is my way of repaying mother for causing her death.

One day, I came home and I saw hubby sitting in the living room.

The whole house was filled with cigarette smoke.

On the coffee table, there was this piece of paper.

I know what it is all about without even looking at it.

In the two months plus of living alone, I have gradually learned to find peace within myself.

I looked at him, removed my hat and said: "You wait a while, I will sign."

He looked at me, mixed feelings in his eyes, just like mine..

As I hang up my coat, I keep repeating to myself "You cannot cry, you cannot cry...." my eyes hurt terribly, but I refused to let tears come out from there.

After I hung up my coat, hubby's eyes stared fixed at my bulging tummy. I smiled, walked over to the coffee table and pulled the paper towards me.

Without even looking at what it says, I signed my name on it and pushed the paper to him. "LD, are you pregnant?"

Since mother's accident, this is the first time he spoke to me. I could not control my tears any further and they fell like raindrops.

I said: "Yes, but its ok, you can leave now."

He did not go.

In the dark, we sat, facing each other.

Hubby slowly moved over me, his tears wet the blanket.

In my heart, everything seems so far away, so far that even if I sprint, I could never reach them.

I cannot remember how many times he repeated "sorry" to me.

I had originally thought that I would forgive him, but now I can't.

In the western restaurant, in front of that girl, that cold look in his eyes, I will never forget, ever.

We have drawn such deep scars in each other's heart.

For me, it's unintentional; for him, totally intentional.

I had been waiting for this moment of reconciliation, but I realized now, what had gone past is gone forever and could not be repeated.

Other than the thought of the baby inside me that would bring some warmth to my heart, I am totally cold towards him, I no longer eat anything he buys for me, I don't take any presents from him and I stopped talking to him.

From the moment I signed on that piece of paper, marriage and love had vanished from my heart.

Sometimes, hubby will try to come into the bedroom, but when he walks in, I will walk out to the living room.

He had no choice but to sleep in mother's room.

At night, from his room, I can hear light sounds of groaning, I kept quiet.

This used to be his trick; last time, whenever I ignore him, he would fake illness and I will surrender and find out what is wrong with him, he would then grab me and laugh.

He has forgotten that last time I cared for him and am concerned because there was love, but now, what is there between us?

Hubby's groaning came on and off continuing but I continuously ignored him.

Almost everyday, he would buy something for the baby, infant products, children products and books that kids like to read.

Bags and bags of it stacked inside his room till it is full.

I know he is trying to use this to reach out to me, but I am no longer moved by his actions.

He has no choice but to lock himself in his room and I can hear his typing away on his computer keyboard, maybe he is now addicted to web surfing but none of that matters to me anymore.

It was sometime towards the end of Spring in the following year, one late night, I screamed because of a sudden stomach pain, hubby came rushing into the room, its like he did not change and sleep, and had been waiting for this moment.

He carried me and ran down the stairs, stopped a car, holding my hand very tightly and kept wiping the sweat off my brow, throughout the journey to the hospital.

Once we reached the hospital, he carried me and hurried into the delivery suite.

Lying on the back of his skinny but warmth body, a thought crossed my mind:

In my lifetime, who else would love me as much as he did?

He held the delivery suite door opened and watch me go in; his warm eyes caused me to manage a smile at him despite my contraction pain.

Coming out of the delivery room, hubby looked at our son and me, eyes tear with joy and he kept smiling.

I reached out and touched his hand.. Hubby looked at me, smiling and then he slowly collapsed onto the floor.

I cried out for him in pain... He smiled, but without opening that tired eyes of his...

I had thought that I would never shed any tear for him, but the truth is, I have never felt a deeper pain cutting through my body at that moment.

Doctor said that by the time hubby discovered he had liver cancer, it was already in terminal stage and it was a miracle that he managed to last this long.

I asked the doctor when he first discovered he had cancer. Doctor said about 5 months ago and consoled me saying:

"Prepare for his funeral."

I disregarded the nurse's objection and rushed home, I went into his room and checked his computer, and a suffocating pain hits me.

Hubby's cancer was discovered 5 months ago, his groaning was real, and

I had thought that... the computer showed over 200 thousand words he wrote for our son:

"Son, just for you, I have persisted, to be able to take a look at you before I fall, is my biggest wish now...

I know that in your life, you will have many happiness and maybe some setbacks, if only I can accompany you throughout that journey, how nice would it be..

But daddy now no longer has that chance.

Daddy has written inside here all the possible difficulties and problems you may encounter during your lifetime, when you meet with these problems, you can refer to daddy's suggestion....

Son, after writing these 200 thousand words, I feel as if I have accompanied you through life journey.

To be honest, daddy is very happy.

Do love your mother, she has suffered, she is the one who loves you most and also the one who loves me most....

"From play school to primary school, to secondary, university, to work and even in dealing with questions of love, everything big and small was written there.

Hubby has also written a letter for me:
"My dear, to marry you is my biggest happiness, forgive me for the pain I have caused you, forgive me for not telling you my illness, because I want to see you be in a joyful mood waiting for the arrival of our baby....

My dear, if you cried, it means that you have forgiven me and I would smile, thank you for loving me...

These presents, I'm afraid I cannot give them to our son personally, could you help me to give some of them to him every year, the dates on what to give when are all written on the packaging... "

Going back to the hospital, hubby is still in coma.

I brought our son over and place him beside him.

I said: "Open your eyes and smile, I want our son to remember being in the warmth of your arms..."

He struggled to open his eyes and managed a weak smile.

Our son still in his arms was happily waving his tiny hands in the air. I press the button on the camera and the sound of the shutter rang through the air as tears slowly rolled down my face.....

A fatal misunderstanding and the person who loves me the most in this world is gone forever...

"Cruel misunderstandings one after another disrupted the blissful footsteps to our family.

Our original intend of having Mother enjoy some quiet and peaceful moments in her remaining years with us went terribly wrong as destiny's secret is finally revealed at a price, every thing became too late."........

This is a true story.
LEARNING POINT - DO NOT EVER HOLD ON TO GRUDGES. I am totally speechless, this story brought tears to my eyes as I read through each line eager to know what would happen next. It truly showed the devastating power of grudges and anger!

Simple humility and communication would have resolved most of the problems in that story, as well as patience.....

This story has really touched my heart and life as a whole and it has stimulated a paradigm shift.

Though it is very sad, it is also very refreshing to know that from today, I can consciously start to live a life free of grudge.

In life, offenses are inevitable.

But holding a grudge is a choice we consciously make. Learn to LET GO....

To forgive others is to forgive YOURSELF. No one's perfect.

Communication is the key. It is never toooooo late to be friends......

http://anu4frndz.blogspot.com/2009/09/this-is-how-we-miss-out-something.html

The Gossiper - Author Unknown

A woman repeated a bit of gossip about a neighbor. Within a few days the
whole community knew the story. The person it concerned was deeply hurt
and offended. Later, the woman responsible for spreading the rumor learned
that it was completely untrue. She was very sorry and went to a wise old
sage to find out what she could do to repair the damage.

"Go to the marketplace," he said, "and purchase a chicken, and have it
killed. Then on your way home, pluck its feathers and drop them one by one
along the road." Although surprised by this advice, the woman did what she
was told.

The next day the wise man said, "Now, go and collect all those feathers
you dropped yesterday and bring them back to me."

The woman followed the same road, but to her dismay the wind had blown all
the feathers away. After searching for hours, she returned with only three
feathers in her hand.

"You see," said the old sage, "It's easy to drop them, but it is
impossible to get them back. So it is with gossip. It doesn't take much to
spread a rumor, but once you do you can never completely undo the wrong."

Creative AD

Inspired Lessons - Vision

Once a French Professor of Calligraphy, Valentine Hauy, handed over a franc to a blind passer-by. The boy turned back and asked the Professor if he had given him a franc by mistake. It is common that when we want to help a beggar, our hands search for the lowest denomination in our wallets. Most of the time, we even make an excuse that we do not have change.

So this little blind boy was surprised at his donor's generosity when he could have given him a lower denomination. Hauy allowed the beggar to keep the franc although it was a great deal of money in those days. What caught Hauy's fancy was not the innocence and gentleness of the blind boy but the fact that by the mere touch of a coin, he could identify it.

If by moving one's finger over the coin, the blind boy could identify the denomination, the professor decided one could invent a system of reading for the blind. He started a school for blind children and prepared special books with embossed letters for them. His experiment was a great success and he became known as the 'Father and apostle of the blind'

It also happened that one of his students, Louis Braille, blind by birth, entered Hauy's school at the age of ten. Realising the disadvantages of Hauy's system - only a reading system - Braille further invented the writing system for the blind when he was just 15. This is prevalent today as 'Braille Lipi' or Braille Script and accepted all over the world.

Those with vision light up the world for others using their many talents. Those with insight make the world a peaceful place to live in. But those who just 'see' and do not strive, bury their talents.

Two Suns on 21thJune 2010

Chance to see two suns from our earth on 21st June, 2010, Don't miss it
Share this with your friends,
as NO ONE ALIVE TODAY will ever see it again.

Two Suns on 21thJune 2010

21st June - the Whole World is waiting for.............

Star Aderoid will be the brightest in the sky, starting 10 June. It will look as large as the sun from naked eye. This will culminate on 21stjune when the star comes within 34.65M miles of the earth. Be sure to watch the sky on june. 21 at 12:30 pm. It will look like the earth has 2 suns.!!
The next time Aderoid may come this close is in 2287

Nice Lecture by Chetan Bhagat at Symbiosis…..

Nice Lecture by Chetan Bhagat at Symbiosis…..

Blood bank- Pass this information, it is very helpful..

Hi,

There is a site: www.friends2support.org

where you can search for a Particular blood group, you will get thousand of donor addresses.
Pass this message 2 all you know. It will help many. Plz don't delete it without forwarding ...

You will really help some 1 without your knowledge.

BEST JOKE COMPETITION

A Chinese walks into a bar in America late one night and he saw Steven Spielberg.
As he was a great fan of his movies, he rushes over to him, and asks for his autograph.
Instead, Spielberg gives him a slap and says, "You Chinese people bombed our Pearl Habour, get outta here."
The astonished Chinese man replied, "It was not the Chinese who bombed your Pearl Harbour, it was the Japanese".
"Chinese, Japanese, Taiwanese, you're all the same," replied Spielberg.
In return, the Chinese gives Spielberg a slap and says, "You sank the Titanic, my forefathers were on that ship."
Shocked, Spielberg replies, "It was the iceberg that sank the ship, not me."
The Chinese replies, "Iceberg, Spielberg, Carlsberg, you're all the same."
This particular joke won an award for the best joke in a competition organized in Britain and this joke was sent by an INDIAN ... !!!

Love Quotes

Love is a game that two can play and both win. ~Eva Gabor

Who, being loved, is poor? ~Oscar Wilde

Without love, what are we worth? Eighty-nine cents! Eighty-nine cents worth of chemicals walking around lonely. ~Laurence Marks, M*A*S*H, "Love Story," original air date 7 January 1973, spoken by the character Hawkeye

A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it. ~Frank A. Clark

If I love you, what business is it of yours? ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Love is not singular except in syllable. ~Marvin Taylor

It is the same in love as in war; a fortress that parleys is half taken. ~Marguerite de Valois

The love game is never called off on account of darkness. ~Tom Masson

Will you love me in December as you do in May,
Will you love me in the good old fashioned way?
When my hair has all turned gray,
Will you kiss me then and say,
That you love me in December as you do in May?
~James J. Walker

Great love affairs start with Champagne and end with tisane. ~Honoré de Balzac

I love you like crazy, baby
'Cuz I'd go crazy without you.
~Pixie Foudre

Love makes time pass; time makes love pass. ~French Proverb

Men love because they are afraid of themselves, afraid of the loneliness that lives in them, and need someone in whom they can lose themselves as smoke loses itself in the sky. ~V.F. Calverton

Love means nothing in tennis, but it's everything in life. ~Author Unknown

Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart. ~Author Unknown

Love is missing someone whenever you're apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you're close in heart. ~Kay Knudsen

Love is not blind - it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less. ~Julins Gordon

Come live in my heart and pay no rent. ~Samuel Lover

If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than because he was he, and I was I. ~Michel de Montaigne

I don't wish to be everything to everyone, but I would like to be something to someone. ~Javan

The simple lack of her is more to me than others' presence. ~Edward Thomas

TRUST

The Letter “Z” Will Be Removed from the English Alphabet

Surprising as it sounds, it looks like the English alphabet will be losing one of its letters on June 1st. The announcement came from the English Language Central Commission (ELCC).
Here is a quote from the press release:
After carefully considering and debating the matter for over two years, the ELCC came to the conclusion that the letter “Z” should be removed from the English alphabet. The main objective of this change is to simplify the phonetic aspect of the language, and to unify the American and British spellings.
What will happen to the words that have the letter “z” in them? It depends on the word. According to the

ELCC, words that started with a “z” will now start with an “x”. Examples include:

* zero becomes xero
* zoo becomes xoo
* zone becomes xone
* zodiac becomes xodiac

Words that featured a “z” with the “s” sound, on the other hand, will now be officially written with the “s” (i.e., unifying the American and British spelling). Examples include:

* visualize becomes visualise
* analyze becomes analyse
* materialize becomes materialise